I took a year to grieve everything. All of it, the full extent, once I knew. The unmaking of me. The painful discovery of truths through it. The knowledge that who I am today could never have been without my experiences, despite how painful some of them were. I held the anger from the old…

Things I’d tell my younger self, and YOU (part 1/?): When you have to take the leap and are terrified—when you’re uncertain, facing the total unknown, and have no idea how things will turn out, remember this: There are so many good people in the world who will put out their arms and catch you.…

Yes ma’am. The man teaches parents, including ours, to hit children with disciplinary objects and break their strong wills, and to do so as follows: The reason I suggest a switch or paddle is because the hand should be seen as an object of love–to hold, hug, pat, and caress. However, if you’re used to…

I have been in the thick of religious deconstruction for just around a year now, finally feel less crazy about it but now feel wary and skittish about it too. Too many times getting bitten where I didn’t expect a snake.  I’ve learned a lot about religious trauma and high control/high demand groups and the…